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- Date: Fri 23 Oct 87 22:15:44
- From: Ryan Hunter
- To: Sean Barrett
- Subj: wedding/handfasting ceremony
-
- [The following wedding ceremony was written to provide for Pagans
- who must of necessity be wed in the presence of the uninitiated
- who are not pagan and are perhaps unaware that the bride and
- groom are pagan. Replace the words Bride and Groom below with the
- names of the happy couple. This ceremony was used by both my wife
- and myself and by my sister and her husband. They modified the
- text at the point below where it says "loving each other wholly
- and completely" to add the phrase "forsaking all others" as they
- are into monogamy. Either version works beautifully, I recommend
- the participants rewrite where necessary to form a legal contract
- that they can and will keep. It is easy to avoid being an
- oathbreaker if you only swear to that that you will keep and
- avoid swearing to something just because the other party wants it
- or because it might be "expected" by the family. Notice: parts of
- this ritual were cribbed from the writings of others. I apologise
- in advance for failure to reference sources but after the
- fifteenth rewrite we had forgotten where we got the text and what
- was and what was not original to us. I doubt if there are quotes
- from other sources longer than paragraph length and thus should
- not be a copyright problem. If you see something that is yours,
- please send me mail and I will reference you in the future. Our
- thanks to those who paved the way. --Ryan Hunter]
-
- [PRIEST] We have come together here in celebration of the joining
- together of ____bride______ and ____groom______. There are many
- things to say about marriage. Much wisdom concerning the joining
- together of two souls, has come our way through all paths of
- belief, and from many cultures. With each union, more knowledge
- is gained and more wisdom gathered. Though we are unable to give
- all this knowledge to these two, who stand before us, we can hope
- to leave with them the knowledge of love and its strengths and
- the anticipation of the wisdom that comes with time. The law of
- life is love unto all beings. Without love, life is nothing,
- without love, death has no redemtion. Love is anterior to Life,
- posterior to Death, initial of Creation and the exponent of
- Earth. If we learn no more in life, let it be this.
-
- Marriage is a bond to be entered into only after considerable
- thought and reflection. As with any aspect of life, it has its
- cycles, its ups and its downs, its trials and its triumphs. With
- full understanding of this, Groom and Bride have come here today
- to be joined as one in marriage.
-
- Others would ask, at this time, who gives the bride in marriage,
- but, as a woman is not property to be bought and sold, given and
- taken, I ask simply if she comes of her own will and if she has
- her family's blessing.
-
- Bride, is it true that you come of your own free will and
- accord?
-
- [BRIDE] Yes, it is true.
-
- [PRIEST] With whom do you come and whose blessings accompany you.
-
- [FATHER] She comes with me, her father, and is accompanied by all
- of her family's blessings.
-
- [PRIEST] Please join hands with your betrothed and listen to that
- which I am about to say.
-
- Above you are the stars, below you are the stones, as time doth
- pass, remember...
-
- Like a stone should your love be firm like a star should your
- love be constant. Let the powers of the mind and of the intellect
- guide you in your marriage, let the strength of your wills bind
- you together, let the power of love and desire make you happy,
- and the strength of your dedication make you inseparable. Be
- close, but not too close. Possess one another, yet be
- understanding. Have patience with one another, for storms will
- come, but they will pass quickly.
-
- Be free in giving affection and warmth. Have no fear and let not
- the ways of the unenlightened give you unease, for God is with
- you always.
-
- Groom, I have not the right to bind thee to Bride, only you have
- this right. If it be your wish, say so at this time and place
- your ring in her hand.
-
- [GROOM] It is my wish.
-
- [PRIEST] Bride, if it be your wish for Groom to be bound to
- you, place the ring on his finger. (places ring on Groom's left
- ring finger)
-
- Bride I have not the right to bind thee to Groom only you have
- this right. If it be your wish, say so at this time and place
- your ring in his hand.
-
- [BRIDE] It is my wish.
-
- [PRIEST] Groom, if it be your wish for Bride to be bound to you,
- place the ring on her finger.(places ring on Bride's left
- ring finger)
-
- (to Groom) Repeat after me:
-
- I, (grooms full name), in the name of the spirit of God that
- resides within us all, by the life that courses within my blood
- and the love that resides within my heart, take thee (bride's
- full name) to my hand, my heart, and my spirit, to be my
- chosen one. To desire thee and be desired by thee, to possess
- thee, and be possessed by thee, without sin or shame, for naught
- can exist in the purity of my love for thee. I promise to love
- thee wholly and completely without restraint, in sickness and in
- health, in plenty and in poverty, in life and beyond, where we
- shall meet, remember, and love again. I shall not seek to change
- thee in any way. I shall respect thee, thy beliefs, thy people,
- and thy ways as I respect myself.
-
- (to Bride)
- I (bride's full name), in the name of the spirit of God that
- resides within us all, by the life that courses within my
- blood, and the love that resides within my heart, take thee,
- (Groom's full name) to my hand, my heart, and my spirit to be
- my chosen one. To desire and be desired by thee, to possess
- thee, and be possessed by thee, without sin or shame, for naught
- can exist in the purity of my love for thee. I promise to love
- thee wholly and completely without restraint, in sickness and in
- health, in plenty and in poverty, in life and beyond, where we
- shall meet, remember, and love again. I shall not seek to change
- thee in any way. I shall respect thee, thy beliefs, thy people,
- and thy ways as I respect myself.
-
- [PRIEST]
- (hands chalice to the groom, saying:) May you drink your fill
- from the cup of love.
-
- (Groom holds chalice to bride while she sips then bride takes
- chalice and holds it to groom while he sips. The chalice is then
- handed back to the Priest who sets it on the table. Next the
- Priest takes the plate of bread, giving it to the groom. Same
- procedure repeated with bread, groom feeding bride and bride
- feeding groom.)
-
- By the power vested in me by God and the State of Alabama, I now
- pronounce you husband and wife. May your love so endure that its
- flame remains a guiding light unto you.
-